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What I Learned This Week – Dealing with Family Issues
This is a good one for me this week because I am struggling with some personal issues.
1. I learned that it is much easier to have a relationship with friends than with family but that doesn't mean you should stop trying. Friends come and go.
2. I learned that no matter how much someone owes you an apology, if they are stubborn and refuse to admit what they did wrong, they will personally attack you until they feel better about themselves.
3. I also learned that even if you are right, it doesn't always matter. Well at least not to anyone but you.
I sad this week because of a relationship in my life that is not going too well right now. This is a person that I care a lot about who did something really crappy to me recently. I am ALWAYS there for her, no matter what and she has not reciprocated this relationship for several months.
For several months it has been about what I can do for her and when I need something, she is conveniently absent or does not return my calls. Instead of holding it inside and because it really hurt me, I brought it up. She launched into a personal attack on me that just got incredibly hurtful and mean.
My husband warned me not to even mention it to her because of how she reacts. I really hoped that this time would be different but he was right. I was clearly wrong.
I will wait for an apology that will probably never come and I will pretend that this never happened because this is the only thing that you can do with this person. Surprisingly I feel a little better writing about it.