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What I Learned This Week – Dealing with Family Issues
This is a good one for me this week because I am struggling with some personal issues.
1. I learned that it is much easier to have a relationship with friends than with family but that doesn't mean you should stop trying. Friends come and go.
2. I learned that no matter how much someone owes you an apology, if they are stubborn and refuse to admit what they did wrong, they will personally attack you until they feel better about themselves.
3. I also learned that even if you are right, it doesn't always matter. Well at least not to anyone but you.
I sad this week because of a relationship in my life that is not going too well right now. This is a person that I care a lot about who did something really crappy to me recently. I am ALWAYS there for her, no matter what and she has not reciprocated this relationship for several months.
For several months it has been about what I can do for her and when I need something, she is conveniently absent or does not return my calls. Instead of holding it inside and because it really hurt me, I brought it up. She launched into a personal attack on me that just got incredibly hurtful and mean.
My husband warned me not to even mention it to her because of how she reacts. I really hoped that this time would be different but he was right. I was clearly wrong.
I will wait for an apology that will probably never come and I will pretend that this never happened because this is the only thing that you can do with this person. Surprisingly I feel a little better writing about it.
I agree with you that sometimes it is easier to have relationships with people you are not related to. Having family is rewarding but can be so emotionally draining sometimes. I will pray that your struggles will end soon and the relationship can move forward.
Wishing you a scent-sational day!
Patty
Amen, Im in a similar situation where my husband told me I was right but to let it go because of who we were dealing with. I didnt and now we are both paying the price and there is no way in hell we will ever get an appology.
I think friends are way easier. I hope your relationship will mend.
Lucy
Oh hugs! I am so sorry you have to go through this!
Some people if you want to keep them in your life , be they friends or family, you either accept them as they are or you have to let go.
Some never ‘give’ much of themselves, they tend to take more. There are takers & givers in this world.
Some can’t accept criticism without thinking it is a personal attack.
Some people never apologize.
I hope your relationship can be mended if it is important to you.